Here is the idea to getting things done. Ask! But here is how to ask. Don’t ask first. What I meant is you gotta do it first. Only when you stumbled upon certain things that you don’t know, now will be the right time to ask.
You know, when you ask the right people about the things that you don’t know, and you asked for it, the person will help you. What others won’t be helping is when you are not helping yourself at the first instance. You gotta help yourself first, ask only when you have encountered cerrtain obstacles that you had tried to resolve for maybe 2 or more times, then you ask.
Show that level of enthusiasm and the person with the knowledge will be equally enthusiastic to help you to solve the problem.
This is very true although it is a very simple idea but nowadays, people won’t even try first and they already ask. That’s not how things work.Even if that person is helping, it does not have the same level of enthusiasm like the one that you had tried. That process of going through all that are precious because that new skill you learn will have more staying power than those not tried at the first place.
I think I should start asking rational questions to myself. Be prepared to ask the brutal questions about myself and start answering honestly.
I think it is very important I should know what I am trying to hide from others and what good does by doing certain things like hiding from true self.
Today, I realised one behaviour or habit that was cultivated since I’m young. It is the habit of not wasting things, be it food, electricity and water. But one may say what is so bad about not wasting? Well, I know why I am not able to slim down. I stuff in whatever just to clean the plate. I don’t like wasting food. This behaviour caused me to put on more weigh.
But habit like this takes time to eliminate . Sometime I have to rationalize whether it is bad or good.
Another thing was, I was said to be not thoughtful by my wife. She said I should have bought this and that for her, but my previous experience told me that if I am being clever, I would have been scolded.
Why? It’s like this, I bought things that I thought she would like, in the end I was scolded for buying things she doesn’t like, and not appreciating all the effort put in, so instantly my mind was programmed to becareful, and just no need to be so thoughtful as she won’t be grateful for all that I do.
So, instead of why not learn and understand what she likes and not likes, I took the shortcuts to just forget about it and save all the troubles.
So I think everytime I need to ask myself when certain things happened and be honest to answer myself so that the improvement can be gained.
I remember about 2 years ago, how I had started all these. After I had achieved my goals early, I begin to move without any direction. Suddenly the company I was working for 11 years was laying off people and shutting down of the operation.
When this happened, it’s like a jolt that woke me up. I needed to do something.The feeling of insecurity emerged and I have no control over my life. At the time, I stumbled upon a book. This book is called ‘The Secret’.
I was inspired, I was feeling good for knowing anything I want, I can get it. All I need is asked and it will be given. Well, it’s not like asking for it half heartedly, you really need to have faith, belief, and want it so bad that you feels the fire in your belly.
But sometimes I feel, even if you ask for it half heartedly, it will still be given, at least you know your direction and what you want. Some people don’t even know what they want.
It’s true what is happening to you now is what you wanted earlier. Maybe unconsciously you did not realized it but if you really examine it, you will know that it’s what you had wanted it that is manifested today.
Thus, if that’s the case, then the secret to it must be what you precisely want for your future, and want it so badly. Then, your wish will be granted.
I have to admit some people get things easily when asked upon and some hard to get what they want, but, the end result will be the same, you will achieve it.
So, that’s the beginning, really set it what that you want so clear, so precise, and in due time it will be granted.
P/S: I did not even realized it when I achieved my smaller goals many years ago that ‘The Secret’ was in action.
